Jun 21


The desire to feel special is understandable.  The problem is that by definition, it’s impossible for everyone to be above average at the same time.  Although there are some ways in which we excel, we always seem to think that there is always someone smarter, prettier, more successful.

How do we cope with this?  Not very well.  To see ourselves positively, we tend to inflate our own egos and put others down so that we can feel good in comparison.  But this strategy comes at a price – it holds us back from reaching our full potential in life.

So what’s the answer?

To stop judging and evaluating ourselves altogether.

To stop trying to label ourselves are “good” or “bad” and simply accept ourselves with an open heart.

To treat ourselves with the same kindness, caring and compassion we would show to a good friend, or even a stranger for that matter.  Sadly, however, there’s almost no one whom we treat as badly as ourselves.

If you like to get back to having a wonderful relationship with yourself and then be an inspiration and role model to others around you email me shan@centrefieldcoaching.com.au or call +61 2 4333 8908.

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Information: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph.D